TO WHOM
Motivational speakers have long been eloquent about the power of gratitude and the benefits that come from practicing it. They often remind us of the importance of finding things to be grateful for and focusing on those moments of grace in our lives. It has become common practice to compile lists of things we are grateful for, and this habit has been widely embraced for its ability to uplift our spirits and improve our mental health. In fact, scientific research has shown that practicing gratitude can boost dopamine levels and elevate our mood, contributing to an overall sense of well-being.
However, while gratitude certainly has positive effects, it doesn’t always provide lasting mood improvements. Many people, especially those who struggle with mood swings or mental health challenges, are encouraged to practice gratitude regularly. While this can help in the short term, it often doesn’t result in prolonged emotional stability. Perhaps the reason for this is that the equation has been incomplete all along. While we are encouraged to be thankful for the good things in our lives, an essential question remains unanswered: to whom are we directing our gratitude?
This question of “to whom?” is critical. Some people direct their gratitude toward a higher power, imagining God or unseen forces as the recipient of their thanks. They may express their gratitude through prayer or meditation, believing that something greater than themselves is responsible for the blessings in their lives. For many, this practice brings comfort and a sense of connection to the divine. But for others, especially those who may not subscribe to traditional religious or spiritual beliefs, the question of “to whom?” becomes more complicated.
As I reflect on this, I realize that, for me, the recipient of my gratitude is often myself. Over time, as I have learned to love myself more and more, I have discovered that expressing gratitude to myself is a powerful act of self-affirmation. I find that I am grateful to myself for the choices I make every day—whether it’s making healthy food choices or being selective about who I surround myself with. I thank myself for believing in my potential, for being ambitious, and for staying motivated even when things are tough.
By directing gratitude inward, we are not only acknowledging the external circumstances that have brought us joy or success, but we are also recognizing our own role in shaping those experiences. This act of self-gratitude can be incredibly empowering. It reinforces the idea that we have agency in our lives, that we are responsible for our growth and well-being. It encourages us to continue making decisions that align with our values and to trust ourselves to navigate the challenges that come our way.
Of course, this doesn’t mean that we should never express gratitude to others or to the world around us. There is immense value in acknowledging nature, the people and circumstances that contribute to our happiness. But incorporating self-gratitude into our lives can add another layer to our practice of appreciation. It completes the equation by reminding us that we, too, are deserving of our thanks.